Mentoring? How does it help?

What is mentoring?

Mentoring is a discussion between two people.

The discussion will be confidential, but the mentors cannot promise to keep it to themselves if there is a child protection issue. If the mentor does think your case is a child protection issue they will inform you that they are passing the case on to the school's Child Protection manager, Miss Parkinson. The Child Protection manager will not tell anybody else in school about your case, neither will your mentor.

What can I talk to my mentor about?

You can talk to your mentor about anything; homework, bullying, friends and family, or anything that's bothering you in school or outside of school. Your mentor will try and give you their best advice and will try and put their self in your situation, or they will use their experiences to give you the best answer. If your mentor doesn't have a suitable response to your problem and you give them permission, they will ask another mentor/ mentor manager for some advice about how to help you..

What will the mentor do after I have spoken to them?

After you have spoken to your mentor, you will fill in a form, to explain what you have spoken about in your meeting and if you were satisfied with the answers you received from your mentor. Nobody will read this form unless you allow them to. Also your mentor will have to fill in a form which indicates what you spoke about in your meeting and how they felt about the issues discussed in the meeting. This is for your mentor use only and this is like a diary for your mentor.

Will I be judged if I talk about personal issues?

You can speak about anything you feel comfortable about. If you have an issue that is related to school or personal things you can talk to your mentor about this and they will not judge you in any way. They will give you the best advice possible and may even give you an information pack on the issue discussed if one is available. The mentors are nice people and can be like a buddy to you. They are people that are not judgmental in any way.

Will people bully me for seeing a mentor?

Of course not! Seeing a mentor can be optional but it is one way of helping you settle into school and work towards achieving your potential. Nobody else in the school needs to know you have a mentor if you don't want them to, except for your form tutor who has to know so that you can be excused from registration on your mentoring day. What you will find is that lots of students at some point during their school life benefit from their support.

When will I be able to see my mentor?

You will be allocated a certain day, which will be Monday or Thursday, depending on the suitability for you and the mentoring programme. If you wish to see your mentor any other time during the week or just someone to speak to, you will have to visit Room 8 at Lunchtime on Wednesday.

Will my parents find out about my mentor and what I talk to them about?

Your parents will know you have been talking to a mentor because we ask you to tell them - that way they can support you because they know what is going on in your school life. You must remember having a mentor isn't a bad thing; it doesn't mean you are stupid, it just means you are looking for extra help or guidance.

What will happen if I ask for a mentor and then I don't feel the need to speak to them on a regular basis?

You will not be assigned a mentor, unless you ask for one on a regular basis. Obviously there will be times when you may want to speak to a mentor as a one off occasion, so there will be a drop in session available Wed lunchtime in Room 8, where a group of mentors will be available to speak to in private. You will not have to sign a regular visiting form and you can come back week after week if you want to.

What will happen if I don't like the mentor I am assigned and I want to change?

Obviously we want you to feel comfortable with the person you are talking to, so we will try our best to assign you with a mentor that you will happy with. If this mentor is able to add you to their group of mentee's it will be ok to change. If there are no available mentors you will be assigned to the senior mentor, or even to the mentor manager who will speak to you until a free space is made.

Does my mentor get to punish me if they think my problem was my fault and I was in the wrong?

Your mentor isn't here to punish you in any way, your mentor is there for you to talk to and receive advice from. Although they may ask you if you could have done anything differently in the situation you were in, this isn't punishment. This is to help you if the situation occurs again.

'Open ears and good advice'

Mentoring. Helping you help yourself